About respecting sensitivities


I had regularly insincere which a Malays have been backward meditative as good as superstitious whereas a non-Malays have been enlightened. we had regularly longed for a Malays to mangle out of their feudalistic as good as outdated cocoon as good as draw towards themselves in to a brand new Millennium and, as Dr Mahathir Mohamad said, be some-more similar to a Chinese. That is why we have been heartless as good as vicious in whacking a Malays. we longed for them to improve. Now it looks similar to it is not only a Malays we need to work on.
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Raja Petra Kamarudin
A integrate of years ago, we met this pretty Chinese girl, probably in her mid-20s, a youth lawyer operative in my friend's firm. She was ready to go in a real sexy black dress which suggested her greatest asset, her prolonged as good as comely legs.
My initial reaction, as good as not which good suspicion of we contingency admit, was to suggest her my condolences.
"For what?" she replied with a puzzled demeanour upon her face. She contingency have suspicion we had in error her for someone else or which my condolences was tongue-in-cheek (such as "my condolences which we have been a lawyer instead of a Blogger similar to me").
we immediately realised myfaux pasand which we had put my feet in my mouth (my mouth relocating faster than my brain, as Megat Najmuddin Megat Khas of Subang Golf Club 'fame' once told me).
"Oh, sorry, we insincere we have been in anguish since of a black dress we have been wearing."
She gave this very, very sexy giggle whilst throwing behind her hair at a behind of her ears. Sighthat was a pierce to warp anyone's ! heart as good as it was extremely formidable not to fall in love with a person who has perfected this pierce to a excellent art.
'On no," she replied, "It is only which we love black."
"I contingency declare which black certainly complements you," we replied, anticipating which we could measure a little points as good as erase what was a bad begin to a promising relationship.
Another sexy giggle as good as a throwing of a conduct behind whilst pushing her hair at a behind of her ears with those oh so excellent as good as prolonged fingers.
Sigh.
Anyway, we went upon to talk about etiquette as good as taboos as good as she told me which she has a sideboard full of black outfits though would never wear black when she goes home to encounter her parents.
"My mom would have a fit. She will roar at me as good as contend we want here to die early. So we never wear black with them around unless we want to die early," she joked.
"But we have been modern, prepared Chinese," she added. "We do not reason in all those superstitions. We only comply them for a consequence of a aged folks, only to make them happy as good as not get them upset."
"What aboutfengshui?" we asked. "Even Muslims as good as westerners now reason infengshui."
Another giggle as good as all a other trimmings to further make we as soft astaufu. "That's what we might find a bit strange about us. We contend we have been modern as good as prepared as good as do not reason in superstition, though when it comes tofengshui, someway many of us still reason in it, at slightest a small bit if not all."
"How strong have been these beliefs?" we ask. "Do we essentially comply them religiously?"
"Well, not really. It's similar to hedging a bets. We do not unequivocally reason all which unsteadiness though we try to comply them whenever we can only in case. If it is unsteadiness then we have zero to lose! . But if they have been loyal then at slightest we have been covered."
"Sort of similar to buying insurance," we concluded.
She laughed again as good as made all those right moves to go with a laugh, as good as we had better stop here since we am certain there have been a little of we next 18 reading this article.
Let's pierce upon to another story.
we attended a wake of a mom of a Chinese crony of mine. He is a Christian though they celebrated all a Chinese etiquette as good as traditions, such as blazing wake money, a paper Mercedes, a paper mansion, etc.
we asked my crony is he not a Christian, to which he reliable he is. "Then why have been we indulging in 'un-Christian-like' rituals?" we asked.
we am which tighten to him to be means to ask such 'sensitive questions' but him foaming at a mouth whilst calling me all sorts of tainted names.
"I'm essentially we do this for my aged man," he replied. "You knowlah, aged people have been still superstitious as good as reason upon to aged Chinese etiquette as good as traditions. So this is for my dad's consequence rsther than than for me. we unequivocally do not reason in all this nonsense."
we can conclude that. When we got tied together behind in 1973, we as good had to comply a aged Malay etiquette as good as traditions, as good as a little Chinese ones too. At first, we only concluded to a religious partial of my marriage, which is theakad nikah. we refused to do thebersanding, which had zero to do with Islam as good as was essentially some-more Hindu.
Wow! You should have seen a storm we created. My mother, who was Welsh, did not mind. But my uncles as good as aunties were furious. They would rsther than which we not get tied together than we get tied together in a 'not proper' way.
These were brothers as good as sisters/sisters-in-law of my late father. So, for my dead father's sake, we concluded to thebersandin! g. we did not want to go in to conflict with my father's siblings, as a mark of respect to my father who had died merely a year before that.
The akad nikah
The bersanding ceremony as good as my late mom blessing a couple
Then, to please my wife's side of a family, we performed a 'tea ceremony'. You should have seen a tears in my mother-in-law's eyes as she hold my hands as good as called me 'son'. we consider we unequivocally made her day.
Incidentally, 3 years later, we brought her along when we migrated to Kuala Terengganu as good as she lived with us till a day she died. The final 3 years of her hold up she was confined after she suffered a cadence as good as we had to occupy a nurse to demeanour after her. The many critical thing is she died in her own home as good as with her young kids as good as grandchildren around her when she breathed her final breath.
Such is a strength of etiquette as good as traditions. And we can utterly assimilate a snub per a whiteang pauepisode, especially when it concerned aged folks who were probably intimidated in to usurpation a whiteang pausand did not dare throw it behind in to Ibrahim Ali's face.
Anyway, whether Ibrahim Ali did this upon role or whether he did this out of ignorance is not something we can confirm, unless we initial speak to him privately about it. Hence we am not defending or justifying his actions. However, after privately knowing him all these years, we would contend which Ibrahim Ali is not a brightest tuber upon a Christmas tree, if we know what we mean. To credit him of plotting this, which requires a brain, is to give him some-more credit than he deserves.
B! ut what puzzles me is a snub by people who contend which all religions have been bullshit, which God does not exist, would not hesitate to wear a black clothes (like a business suit), as good as so on. They reason which God as good as religions have been bullshit as good as nonetheless they reason which colours can harm we or move we luck.
we had regularly insincere which a Malays have been backward meditative as good as superstitious whereas a non-Malays have been enlightened. we had regularly longed for a Malays to mangle out of their feudalistic as good as outdated cocoon as good as draw towards themselves in to a brand new Millennium and, as Dr Mahathir Mohamad said, be some-more similar to a Chinese. That is why we have been heartless as good as vicious in whacking a Malays. we longed for them to improve. Now it looks similar to it is not only a Malays we need to work on.
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