A look at the prevailing (mal)practice of polygamy in Malaysia today Norani Othman



According to Penang Religious Department executive Datuk Sazali Hussein if Penang organisation (Muslim) no longer need to find permission from their initial wives in sequence to take an additional bride, they have been then means to "help quell the problem of unwed women" (seewww.malaysiandigest.com)
This statement was made in reply to the idea by the reader inUtusan Malaysia(October 18) which conditions for polygamy be eased or relaxed in sequence to assistance women of an advanced age who have been still unmarried.
There have been dual assumptions embedded in this short as well as deceptive statement: (1) unwed women of advanced age have been posing the problem; as well as (2) which this problem can be alleviated if these unwed women have been allowed to get tied together as second, third or fourth wives, i.e. in the polygamous union.
There is no significant basis or interpretation to await the view which women of over thirty years of age have been posing the social problem. It is additionally ridiculous to suggest which the practice of polygamy by Muslim organisation can in any approach assistance to quell or compromise the "problem" caused by unwed women above thirty years in age.
The polygamy research plan undertaken by the organisation of scholars as well as educational researchers upheld by SIS Forum Malaysia (popularly well known as Sisters in Islam) have collected the little interesting interpretation about the practice of polygamy among Muslims in Malaysia.
The investigate shows which polygamous organisation have caused hardships as well as misery to women as well as young kids in their plural families, especially initial wives as well as their children. In the in-depth studies finished in the polygamy plan you find which over 75 per cen! t of pol ygamous husbands have been incompetent to fulfil their responsibilities as provider as well as protector to their wives as well as young kids in their plural marriages. Over 80 per cent of initial wives claimed which their respective husbands have unsuccessful to go on in providing the required as well as necessarynafkah zahir(material/economic maintenance) for them as well as their children. Among initial wives who have never been working or employed, 45 per cent pronounced which they have to find full-time employment in sequence to yield food for their family.
Seventy per cent of the young kids of the initial wives interviewed in the box studies pronounced which their lives have been negatively or adversely affected since their fathers took the second wife. Many husbands themselves certified which they have been incompetent to be satisfactory as well as usually in their practice ofgiliran(spending time with wives as well as children) although usually 34 per cent of husbands pronounced which on thoughtfulness they would suggest their sons as well as other organisation not to embark on polygamy since the worry as well as problem of fulfilling monetary responsibilities as well as handling peace or stability in family life.
Further interviews in the 60 hold up histories of husbands, wives as well as young kids in polygamous family groups revealed which the infancy of women as well as adult young kids have to supplement if not yield the bulk ofnafkah zahiror monetary await to their respective family groups or households. Neglected wives have to turn to their eldest son or daughter to assistance yield or supplement the small domicile income to means simple needs of the household.
In other words, wives as well as young kids of polygamous organisation have been often forced to commence the simple duty as well as shortcoming of the father which goes against the grain of classicalfiqhreasoning which allows polygamy usually on the despo! tic cond ition which husbands do not causedarar syarieor mistreat (materially as well as emotionally) to any members of their existing family or marriage.
It is transparent which in Islamic authorised suspicion polygamy is the redeeming payoff as well as not the right of Muslim men. The Quran additionally expresses doubt which organisation can be usually or satisfactory in polygamous marriages as well as encourages monogamy instead (An-Nisa/4:129).
In the study, the reason really often cited by the infancy of men, eremite total orulamaand even the little women (mainly second wives)is which "polygamy is slight in Islam in sequence to avoid the impiety ofzinah(sexual family outward of marriage)". This raises critical questions about the meaning of marriage, marital commitment, love as well as caring for wives as well as young kids among ? la mode Malaysian Muslims. It seems the priority is which passionate desires contingency be fulfilled legally without due consideration of the disastrous impact of polygamy on the infancy of the family members.
* Norani Othman, the first member of Sisters in Islam, is currently one of the board members as well as the Research Fellow during SIS Forum Malaysia.
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