SEPT twenty-eight It started with my seeing from afar, a crony of my mother's, with a bag of multilevel offered products, during a embankment of a couple house.
MLM marketers have been not an uncommon sight, but seeing a woman, tighten to her 70s, offered supplements, was a differing sight. One could say which she was a pitch of industry, for even during her age, she was still active as well as working. Didn't work wand off Alzheimer's? But a indicate is precisely this: during her age, shouldn't she be lazy as well as enjoying a fruits of her labour?
What a sombre Raya. we see a little friends of my relatives as well as comparison relatives, not only depending upon their children's charity, but having to do tiny businesses, offered this as well as that. Quite a series have quiescent themselves to a actuality which they will die in debt, notwithstanding insurance. Old age, as well as health woes have been their constant worry, as well as miss of money is their bedside companion.
The categorical question during a couple of open houses we attended was this: Are we Malaysians destined to only survive financially? And which to consequence an income more than RM8,000 a month would meant which there would be no work-life balance?
When we strike your 40s, all this comes to a forefront, as well as we wonder, as we comply a wealthy as well as beautiful young, as well as rich, whom a crony calls The Concession Generation... we consternation if we as well as your friends will have which comfortable hold up or finish up in your 60s trying to sell madu tualang to your neighbours.
My friends as well as we we come from each race as well as mercantile class consternation if a efforts have been enough. It's never enough. There's a child to feed, a primogenitor to care for as well as yourself to dress as well as feed. Living in KL as well as Malaysia is not about entertainment wealth. It is about surviving. Sustenance. Perhaps we might not even be comfortable in a aged age. Wh! o's to k now?
Friends in a media have opted for a public family route, as well as let their lives sap divided as they bake by even more hours meeting deadlines as well as traffic with a single predicament after another. Some have joined a corporate world, but in private, shake up their heads during a ethics.
For us women, no matter how educated we are, how tall we rise, in a end, a little of us take which simpler route: By dating well off men, who often than not, have been married. But can we censure them? Judge them?
Kuala Lumpur can be such a cruel place to be in. It is not your ethics as well as ethics which will take we places. It is your connections, your status, your energy as well as if we have it, beauty. When we have all that, we can do whatever we want, to a indicate of destroying others, but we have been forgiven, since which is how it is here.
Hard work? Don't be stupid. It doesn't get we anywhere. It is during times identical to this which we question ourselves. Are a ethics only too antiquated? After all, there seems to be no karma for a ones who erred. They're a ones who will lead a comfortable life. Not identical to us, who will toil to a deaths.
Ramadan has been a truly engaging month. A crony who has worked so tough to attain a little she had, lost everything except her looks. A great girl, as we say. Faced with a family to support, she asked me what we thought of her becoming a chick upon a side to a wealthy man.
When we was in my 20s, we would have cut her off from my life. we am right divided in my 40s as well as have seen enough.
"Whatever we decide, don't discuss it me. You're a big lady now," we said. we am not god. Who was we to judge, when if fate might fool around a joke upon me as well as we might face identical circumstances?
Well-meaning friends discuss it friends as well as me this.
You got to learn to position yourself, fool around a game. You can't consider of a other person's family; your family comes first. K! ill.
You have a little face, coquette je lah. Apa susah? Bukan we tidur dengan dia pun.
Late during night, a Blackberries ping messages. We discuss a work, debts, savings, everything. A crony texted to say he prayed so hard, his front was removing black. He didn't consider his prayers would be heard in Malaysia.
"Kita cakap je Malaysia ni negara Islam, tapi tengok lah! Aku tak minum, aku tak zina, aku kerja keras. Tapi aku bodoh, tak reti office politik. Sebab tu aku berhutang, jaga family aku."
Ethics. Most of us walk divided from what is not right. But is it to a personal detriment?
* The views voiced here have been a personal perspective of a columnist.
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